Wow, 3 posts in one morning, hm?
Lately I find myself thinking sometimes that for just the right person, maybe I could sub.
I’m not a masochist, I don’t like being bound, orgasm denial/restriction seems pretty pointless to me, but there is this odd set of circumstances, scenes, ideas that I can imagine being in a submissive role for.
It’s weird and I am not entirely sure how to process it or if it is remotely worth any second thought at all due to the specificity of it all, but there ya go.
I think that what my brain is getting at here is more of a complaint about the fatigue of always carrying the weight in a relationship or sexual encounter – feeling like it’s my responsibility to make sure she gets off more or harder than she has in her previous vanilla sex life, my responsibility to make sure she knows how to keep me happy in the relationship, and to figure out how to keep her happy.
Somehow, this idea of not being in charge has snuck into part of my sexual thought process, but the more I try to integrate that into the idea of something that might actually happen, the more I realize that it’s a senseless fluke.
What I am doing is instituting some “me” days with C, and telling her ahead of time what I expect from her and what we will be doing and that I am not going to concern myself with making her cum or anything if we play.
I know it sounds ridiculously tame, but in my life, that is me being excessively needy.
I think you are in the right track. I find that subs need to know what is expected from them at all times, as we crave a sense of direction at all times, well at least myself. I wish you good luck.
All Masters need ME time. In fact i have always found that most time is for them. “it is all about them” is one of the first things all subs should and must learn to keep going. So many times a sub has to say….. it is all about Him…..
Even though many feel that subs/slaves are actually in control all the time….
But….
A Good seasoned Master should always get what He wants first.